Reciprical Relationships: How to Take Up More Space in Relationships
The idea of “taking up space” may feel a bit confusing. Imagine “manspreading” - that guy on BART who is sitting with his legs spread, even though the train is crowded, leaving those next to him squished to make themselves smaller. Ladies, I know you know.
That same idea can be true relationally.
Am I Codependent?
Codependency is a bit of a psychobabble buzz word - but what is codependency? Codependency describes a set of traits and features of unhealthy dependence on another for that one’s emotional well being. This term is often used within the realm of addiction, but codependency can surface in other relationships as well.
Ultimately, people who struggle with codependency will not feel okay unless others are okay. There is a blurred line between one’s own thoughts, emotions, and needs and the thoughts, emotions or needs of another person.
How to Stop People Pleasing
People pleasing has its perks. It often means you’re appreciated as the team player at work, considered the friend or family member that is reliable and thoughtful, the one your friends confide in because you’re quick to listen and follow up in meaningful ways. It’s a quality that is rewarded in friendships, families, workplace, and church communities. I get it, I’m a recovering people pleaser myself. The dark side of people pleasing emerges when relationships become more and more one-sided, demanding emotional energy without reciprocity, and unexpressed resentment starts to fester.
Questions to ask a therapist, counselor, or psychologist in Dublin, CA
So, you found a few therapists in Oakland who seem nice enough. All of them talk about doing a consultation, but what should you ask? What should you say? What is appropriate?
Questions to ask a Therapist in Oakland
5 Minute Guided Lightstream Visualization
These are challenging times accompanied by lots of uncertainty, anxiety, fear, and big feelings. Give yourself the gift of this 5 minute guided meditation to help acknowledge your feelings while also inviting relief so you can feel more grounded & present. Add this in your tool belt for mental health resources and take it with you when you need it.