Reciprical Relationships: How to Take Up More Space in Relationships

The idea of “taking up space” may feel a bit confusing. Imagine “manspreading” - that guy on BART who is sitting with his legs spread, even though the train is crowded, leaving those next to him squished to make themselves smaller. Ladies, I know you know.

That same idea can be true relationally.

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10 Ways to Know You’re Done with Therapy

I often tell my clients in my initial consultation call & first session that I believe if I’m successful in my role as therapist, I’ll eventually work myself out of a job. When we are successful, one day you’ll graduate therapy. To that end, it’s super important both client & therapist have a clear understanding of what success in therapy looks like in real, practical ways. That way, when we arrive there, we know it’s time to celebrate and send you on your way. Goal accomplished!

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How to Stop People Pleasing

People pleasing has its perks. It often means you’re appreciated as the team player at work, considered the friend or family member that is reliable and thoughtful, the one your friends confide in because you’re quick to listen and follow up in meaningful ways. It’s a quality that is rewarded in friendships, families, workplace, and church communities. I get it, I’m a recovering people pleaser myself. The dark side of people pleasing emerges when relationships become more and more one-sided, demanding emotional energy without reciprocity, and unexpressed resentment starts to fester.

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5 Minute Guided Lightstream Visualization

These are challenging times accompanied by lots of uncertainty, anxiety, fear, and big feelings. Give yourself the gift of this 5 minute guided meditation to help acknowledge your feelings while also inviting relief so you can feel more grounded & present. Add this in your tool belt for mental health resources and take it with you when you need it.

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